Fuck it…lets get married..

It started back in May 2019, thats where we got Engaged. We were in york, in the best little Italian restraunt that we both loved the first time we went back in May 2018.

(Yeah, we went back and forth to York, the first time, it was where we found out I was pregnant. The second, we took our 4 month old daughter with us. It was magical.)

So there we were, engaged to be married, making a plan for 5 years down the line, giving us time to save for the big wedding we thought were were supposed to have and want. It was a good plan, a solid plan…but here I am in 2020. And that plan can go fuck itself.

We didn’t want the big wedding, we didnt want the massive guest list, the list of what we didnt want was a lot bigger than what we did. And what we did want, was the marriage, not the wedding.

Along comes a simple morning in the beginning of January, and out of the blue I send the text that kick starts the whole thing. “Do you want to get married this year?” Thats all it took, a simple text, and in a few short days a date was booked.

Now, the whole idea is simplicity and so far we have managed that down to the fine details.

A 15 minute registry office wedding, then off to the pub afterwards. The guest list is no more than 20 people, there are no bridemaids, there will be no wedding dress..

Just two people who want to get married but not have the actual wedding.

I can’t fucking wait. 9 months to go and already I am counting down the days. It truly is going to be exactly what we both want, and that is what truly matters, and don’t get me wrong, the fact that we are doing this wedding for less that £100 does help, because can I be fucked spending thousands on a day that will just exhaust me.

Now lets dive into those costs…

Wedding (registry office and fees) – £250
Rings – £200
Dress and shoes- £50-£100
Suit (new shirt and tie) – £25-£50
Extras (optional not needed) – £100

And the best part is there are no lump sum payments, just every month we either put a little bit of money away or we buy something we need. There is no stress, no panic, no debt, just a marriage.